Stupid and Hairy

This weekend, while I was driving Sophie, Ava, and their friend back from an outing, I participated in the following conversation:

The Friend: (to Sophie) Charlie and Abe said you’re stupid and hairy.

Sophie: What?!

Friend: Yeah! That’s what they said.

Sophie: Mom!! Charlie and Abe said I’m stupid and hairy!!

Sophie is super smart. No ifs, ands or buts about it. But here’s the problem:, she’s also very hairy. She was born with a pelt. When she came out, the doctor made a monkey joke, then he asked if my “milkman was Chinese” (unrelated to the hair, for the record).

Me: Stupid?   No one could think you’re stupid.

Friend: (backpedaling) Well maybe they didn’t say stupid…just hairy.

Sophie: Mom!!   Charlie and Abe said I’m hairy!

Me: Well…that’s true. But so am I. It’s no big deal.

This seemed to satisfy her, but she did come home later and tell my friend that two boys called her “stupid and hairy,” so I guess it was still on her mind. I don’t know. She is really hairy””especially on her back. We used to remove her back hair at the beginning of the summer in Seattle just to avoid the teasing. Conveniently, Seattle summers only last 4 days, so the removal did the trick. But now we live in Arizona and there’s a whole lot of tank-topping going on.

I don’t want to make a big deal of it, but I also want to spare her the peer torture. What’s a mom to do?

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3 comments on «Stupid and Hairy»

  1. Jorie says:

    I am cracking up over the pelt. I feel for Sophie. I have to give my waxologist a big tip every Christmas. The two of us are quite close.

    My daughter is blonde-ish and seems to have avoided my hairy fate, but I always thought about this issue before she was born. I had decided that if she wanted to wax or shave because of teasing, I wouldn’t oppose it. All kids get teased–why not reduce the # of things people can pick on them about? I’d also take her to a dermatologist if she had acne, etc.

  2. Jen says:

    I would check with a doctor to see if a hormonal issue if hair in odd places on a female like the back. If all is well on that avenue, look into laser hair removal or keep shaving or see if safe to use one of those hair removal products, again maybe checking with a doctor. I would not opt for doing nothing, kids never change, no matter what else is perfect about her, kids will tease any critical imperfection they can find, they’re just cruel.

  3. Kelly says:

    Hi there,

    I wish I could help with some advice :( My two girls are the same, 4 and 7. The 4 year old has back / shoulder hair growing in like you wouldnt believe. I am losing sleep over it. Bleach? Thats what Im thinking.

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