Are you getting married in June? It’s one of the most popular months for tying the proverbial knot. I, myself, will be celebrating my ten-year anniversary at the end of the month. Holla! Anyway, if you’re getting married you’re probably thinking about the wedding night. And if you’re thinking about the wedding night, you’re probably totally, totally freaking out. Here’s a paper bag. Put your head between your knees and breathe while I talk you down off that ledge.
There is so much hype built up around the wedding night and it’s totally unnecessary. Some of you may be virgins. Some of you may not, but it’s still your first night together. And for some of you, that ship has long since sailed. Regardless, almost everyone builds up the wedding night to be some huge spectacular consummation of your eternal flame for each other. Second only to the monstrosity of a deflowering event that prom has turned into (but that’s a discussion for another time). Even if you’ve been living together for years, and even if it’s your second marriage, there is immense external pressure to make it a night of pure magic.
Here’s my take: What. Ever.
Weddings are exhausting. After a long day of wedding festivities, I remember my newly-minted husband and I looking at each other and saying, “Let’s call it a night and maybe we’ll do it in the morning.” We were just too tired.
Don’t harbor any guilt or feelings of obligation about whether or not you have sex the minute that hotel room door closes. The performance anxiety alone may lead to a rather lackluster session. Slow it down and give yourself some time to settle in. This moment is about celebrating your love and commitment, not ritualized “wedding night” sex.
Many of you will be lucky enough to have a few extra nights on your honeymoon. Bring along some playful items to help you relax and enjoy your new-found freedom of married sex. Sweet and romantic can be just what you need after the hustle and bustle. Add Bijoux Indiscrets Love Bath Tea to the tub and have a steamy soak together. Intimacy isn’t just about sex. If the bath leads to more, great, if not, it doesn’t matter. You’ll often get more emotionally out of sensual, but not sexual, time together.
If you plan to take your sexual adventures to new heights during the honeymoon, then pack your tried and true passion paraphernalia. Whatever that little bag of tricks consists of, don’t forget to pack lube, because things can get kind of, shall we say, fatigued with all of that lovin’ going on.
All joking aside, your honeymoon is all about focusing on just the two of you. Give him your undivided attention. Receive his love and devotion. Share unfettered and fantastic love-making without having to think about anything or anyone else. Make the most of this time, because it’s where amazingly passionate memories are created.
“The Bombshell Mommy” is written by Abigail Blank, romance author and mother of three. Frozen Heart and its sequel, Melted Tears, are published under her pen name: Annabelle Blume. Got a question about how to juggle it all and still be a Bombshell? Email Abigail at firstname.lastname@example.org, connect with her on Facebook, follow her on Twitter @Bombshell_Mommy and look for her on Pinterest.