Parent-teacher conference meltdown.

So everyone loves my daughter’s pre-school teacher, but there’s just something about her that rubs me the wrong way””and maybe vice versa. I recently went back to work after being a stay-at-home-mom, and it seems like she’s going out of her way to make me feel even guiltier than I already feel! Like she will say when I drop her off, “She really misses you now that you don’t pick her up at 1 p.m.” Um, gee, thanks!! Then yesterday was the parent-teacher conference”¦

So I get there and she starts showing me all of these great pictures Sophia drew and is telling me how Sophia knows all of her numbers and letters and colors. Which is great! So I tell her how happy I am that she’s doing so well in the class.

That’s when the teacher says, “I wouldn’t say she’s doing great. She misses you a lot.” I was like, OK, so what specifically is wrong with her? Does she cry? No. Misbehave? No. Is she not eating? No, she eats fine. Is she not taking her nap? No, she naps fine. THEN WHAT IS WRONG WITH MY DAUGHTER?? The teacher says, “I can tell she misses you because she won’t hug us.” I was like, WTF? And that’s when I lost it. I said, “Are you going out of your way to try to make me feel guilty? Do you think I went back to work because I wanted to make Sophia sad?? What is wrong with her not hugging you? What does that have to do with anything?”

She then told me that she could tell I was upset and that she didn’t want to upset me. Just to tell me that my daughter was not adjusting. It has been all of two weeks! So my question is””do I contact the principal? I feel like she totally stepped over the line! Or was it me who over reacted??

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4 comments on «Parent-teacher conference meltdown.»

  1. Andrew Davis Anna says:

    She really needs to calm down and focus more on teaching and less on YOU.

  2. Wendy says:

    You did not overreact! She was out of line with nothing to back up her “theory”. The last thing a new working mom needs is to feel guilty.

  3. pollards07 says:

    As a preschool teacher, I can say that she has no evidence to back up her ridiculous story that is making you feel bad. I have one question, did she hug the teachers before you went back to work? If not, then it has nothing to do with you working and everything to do with the fact that Sophia is simply not interested in hugging her teachers… simple as that. If she used to hug them and she stopped when you went back to work, then there could possibly be some correlation, however it would generally be manifested in some other way than just simply not hugging her teacher. Sounds like this teacher may have some issues that she needs to work on instead of insinuating that you and Sophia have issues now that you are back to work. Honestly, I would bring it up with the principal.

  4. Debbie says:

    I totally agree with what ‘pollards07′ said. If there was a change in your daughter’s behavior than you would want to keep an eye on things. Probably your daughter just doesn’t ‘want’ to hug her teachers.

    It sounds like she has her own hangups that she is projecting onto you. Perhaps she was ‘sad’ as a youngster because her mom worked and assumes it’s that way with all kids.

    A short story about my daughter’s boss, who is a doctor. They go to this serious meeting at his son’s pre-school. His teacher is concerned that he’s depressed because all of his drawings are in black crayon…teacher is sure there’s some underlying problem. The parents say, did you ask Johnny WHY he uses black crayons? Well…why no. So they ask Johnny and his reason is that all of the other crayons are broken so that’s why he uses the black ones, because they’re unbroken. (There’s been administrative changes at that school since then.)

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