3 Secrets to a Sizzlin’ Marriage

Today, as I was driving down the street listening to my littlest cackling at the movie she was watching from the back seat (don’t judge me, my moments of peace are few and far between), my mind wandered to the day I met my husband. My first thought was, “I don’t ever want to forget how amazing that day felt.”

Whether it’s dinner out or a cup of coffee together on the porch at 6 a.m., making the time to reconnect is worth it.

I think, as the years march on and we are trampled by the drudgery of jobs, packing lunches, and bedtime negotiations, we forget what it was like in the beginning. It all seems too far away, and now, you’re hard pressed to look at your spouse without pinning him as Laundry-Helper or Trash-Collector, that is, if you’re not calling him swear words in your head. There is no magic formula for making your marriage rock, but there are some things you can do to ensure a positive perspective and keep the love alive.

 It’s the Little Things That Count

Sometimes it feels like you and your man are a million miles apart. You haven’t talked about anything but the cable bill and carpool in weeks. That’s when one of you needs to make the first move. I suggest that person be you. Don’t sneer at me, this is for your own good. Pick up a little gift for him that says, “I’m thinking of you.” Whether it’s packing his favorite protein bar in his lunch or stocking the shower with all his favorite shaving essentials, it’s those little gestures that keep us endeared to each other.

Make Time for Us

I know, I know, you’re busy and you’re tired and there are so many ways you need to spend that money. But you know what costs even more? A divorce. So make the time to reconnect whether it’s a nice dinner out or a quiet cup of coffee together on the front porch at 6am on Saturday. Do it.

Put on Your “Remember Glasses”

Just like I did above, try to see your man through that lens from long ago. You married him for a reason. See if you remember it. Then again, it may make you hate him even if you see a distinct change from who he was, but that can be a catalyst for open, honest, and productive discussions. Because sometimes you have to clean the fish tank, and let all the gross stuff loose, so you can have a healthy, clear tank again.

“The Bombshell Mommy” is written by Abigail Blank, romance author and mother of three.  Frozen Heart  and its sequel,  Melted Tears, are published under her pen name: Annabelle Blume. Got a question about how to juggle it all and still be a Bombshell? Email Abigail at  thebombshellmommy@gmail.com, connect with her on  Facebook, follow her on Twitter  @Bombshell_Mommy  and look for her on Pinterest.

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4 comments on «3 Secrets to a Sizzlin’ Marriage»

  1. jorie @vitacost says:

    I love the concept of “Remember Glasses.”

    1. Abigail says:

      Thanks, Jorie. I really believe channeling those feelings is an important part of staying connected.

      XOXO

  2. Darlene says:

    “Return to your first love” – do the things you did at the beginning.

    1. Abigail says:

      Fantastic phrase, Darlene. We so often stop treating each other with the same reverence we did in the beginning.

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